Comments on: Permalink: How to Ask for Help http://www.noshortageofwork.com/pages/352 Even when you're not doing something for pay, do something anyway. Sun, 05 Feb 2012 02:53:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: John http://www.noshortageofwork.com/pages/352/comment-page-1#comment-667 John Wed, 02 Mar 2011 19:50:50 +0000 http://www.noshortageofwork.com/incarnation5/?p=352#comment-667 I am neither ashamed or embarrassed to ask for help; I just would strongly disagree with your premise that most people want to help. This may well have been the case in more stable economic times, but events of the past three years has virtually everyone WITH a job running scared. It must be some sort of self-preservation instinct at work here, because I am here to report quite unequivocally that friends,colleagues and strangers alike have become uncannily adept at NOT returning calls and generally paying lip service to those of us on the outside looking in. This is by no means a universal phenomenon, but I believe quite strongly that it has EVERYTHING to do with the severity and duration of the current downturn. No one wants to be NEXT! I am neither ashamed or embarrassed to ask for help; I just would strongly disagree with your premise that most people want to help. This may well have been the case in more stable economic times, but events of the past three years has virtually everyone WITH a job running scared. It must be some sort of self-preservation instinct at work here, because I am here to report quite unequivocally that friends,colleagues and strangers alike have become uncannily adept at NOT returning calls and generally paying lip service to those of us on the outside looking in. This is by no means a universal phenomenon, but I believe quite strongly that it has EVERYTHING to do with the severity and duration of the current downturn. No one wants to be NEXT!

]]> By: Kevin http://www.noshortageofwork.com/pages/352/comment-page-1#comment-248 Kevin Fri, 30 Apr 2010 16:10:34 +0000 http://www.noshortageofwork.com/incarnation5/?p=352#comment-248 I agree. For me, humility is an important attitude: I don't have all the answers. Brooke, I also like the idea of the radio button at the bottom of his gui - Speak! Best, Kevin I agree. For me, humility is an important attitude: I don’t have all the answers.

Brooke, I also like the idea of the radio button at the bottom of his gui – Speak!

Best,
Kevin

]]> By: Tanita http://www.noshortageofwork.com/pages/352/comment-page-1#comment-88 Tanita Sat, 13 Mar 2010 16:41:59 +0000 http://www.noshortageofwork.com/incarnation5/?p=352#comment-88 These are all very important components of the process. My keyword is to connect, look people in the eye, regard them as people, convey that you are one as well. When you break through the veil between the two of you there is an aura of intimacy, even if momentary, and I find that both parties derive pleasure from being there for each other even if they may never see each other again. You can actually make people feel good about themselves by asking them for help in this fashion. These are all very important components of the process. My keyword is to connect, look people in the eye, regard them as people, convey that you are one as well. When you break through the veil between the two of you there is an aura of intimacy, even if momentary, and I find that both parties derive pleasure from being there for each other even if they may never see each other again. You can actually make people feel good about themselves by asking them for help in this fashion.

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